When it comes to the question that why millennial (generation starting from 1982 to current year) are heading towards wrong ways ? A lot many factors contribute ,like helicopter parenting,communication gap between children and parent about sharing a problem ,social issues, lack of educational opportunities,increased competition ,pressure for building a handsome career,frequently availability of immoral explicit material,narcissism, gender discrimination for career opportunities ,misuse of social media and internet facility,lack of true moral values and ethics,deviation from path of righteousness(ISLAM and QURAN)
The life of a young adult is a like a roller coaster that last for years. With emotional ups and downs and ins and outs, a young person can feel on the verge of something – anything – long after puberty sets in. Early adulthood is a period marked by changes and growth physically, mentally, and emotionally. It could be a bit difficult to understand ''millennial'' at this stage of their life .The ''Emerging Adulthood'' is a very potent stage of life ,at which the personality building takes place .
First, it’s understood that young adults can be moody, cranky, and angst-ridden with or without the influence of a mental health disorder. That’s just part of growing up. Young adults generally love or hate things, and one bad day can make them feel like the world is toppling down. Because young people are prone to mood swings and often feel out of control.
The phenomenon popularly referred to as helicopter parenting refers to an over involvement of parents in their children's lives. This concept has typically been used to describe parents of college-aged young adults. Despite much anecdotal evidence, little is known about its existence and consequences from an empirical perspective. Using a sample of college students at a university in the United States (N = 317), the exploration and measurement of this concept is examined. Results of factor analysis of helicopter parenting items constructed for this study support the use of the scale. Results suggest helicopter parenting is negatively related to psychological well-being and positively related to prescription medication use for anxiety/depression and the recreational consumption of pain pills.
helicopter parenting is all about wrong way of over pampering and caring for child.Parents ''hover '' over their child like a helicopter ,so they can save their child from being misused and in this way they can pamper their child the best But actually they are doing more harm then good to their own child.They don't let them know how a problem should be dealt .how the children can cope with their problems. So, if such extra pampered children are put in a soup ,they fail to overcome through the problem and most often such millennial are victimized by depression ,anxiety and bad company .
Also,one major contributing factor is increased competition and lack of opportunities . Millennial have to face such problems which baby boomers didn't .So,this pressure makes ,emotionally potent emerging adults,emotionally frustrated.which may lead to depression ,anxiety and other psychological factors.According to psychological survey ,in past few decades the suicide rate of college students has been significantly increased .
Narcissism or self love is also a very major psychological factor . Narcissists cut a wide, swashbuckling figure through the world. At one end of the self-loving spectrum is the charismatic leader with an excess of charm, whose only vice may be his or her inflated amour-proper. At the far end of the spectrum reside individuals with narcissistic personality disorder, whose grandiosity soars to such heights that they are manipulative and easily angered, especially when they don't receive the attention they consider their birthright. Here's how to figure out whether the big talker in your office really believes his own hype.
Rizak e haram is also considered as a very important contributing factor in leading the millennial towards wrong path.The concept of ''Haram'' which is not considered is a very important contributing factor .the concept of RIZAK E HARAM is that humans are just like Gidhs (even worst then them). If a Gidhs eat meat of only dead animal so are humans, who always like to take advantages of weak /disturb and emotionally dead people. In trying to gain what is beyond his/her destination he often choose the forbidden path which leads him to earn Rizq-e-haraam. The writer comprehensively explains the adverse effects of Rizq-e-haraam on human’s genes mutation process. It could lead to insanity and abnormality which is then genetically transferred to next generations.
As in QURAN in SURAH FALAQ, ALLAH tells about the concept of ""Shur''.
Min sharri ghaasiqin idha waqab – from the evil of the night as it approaches. (specific to the evils that happen in the night.)
ÙˆَÙ…ِÙ† Ø´َرِّ غَاسِÙ‚ٍ Ø¥ِØ°َا ÙˆَÙ‚َبَ
Wa min sharri ghasiqin idha waqab
“And from the evil of the darkening (night) as it comes with its darkness; (or the moon as it sets or goes away).
Ghaasiqin
ghasaq – the first part of the night. When the blue sky has gone and the sky is black.
Establish prayer at the decline of the sun [from its meridian] until the darkness of the night [ghasaq] and [also] the Qur’an of dawn. Indeed, the recitation of dawn is ever witnessed. [Isra' 17:78]
The word Ghaasiq in arabic literature refers to that which disappears. I.e. When the sun disappears, and it has become dark.
Ghasaq al Qamar – Lunar Eclipse.
Ghasaqat as-Samaa’ – when the clouds cover the sky, so the sky disappears from our vision.
Allah is referring to the time of the night, when it is completely dark.
Min sharri ghaasiqin – from the evils of the night.
Allah’s Messenger discouraged his companions from going out at night.
“If you knew what I knew, you would not go out at night.”
The shayateen/devils meet at the oceans at night.
In our society – people act like the devils, at the night times. (Nightclub? Etc.) drugs, alcohol etc.
So there is an evil in the night times.
The potential of evil is greater.
So we ask Allah to protect us from that dark evil.
Waqab – linguistically also means Darkness.
So it is like we are asking Allah to protect us from the evil of the darkness as it darkens.
So why is a different word (waqab) used?
Waqab -
waqab ad-dhalam – darkness so things become invisible.
there’s a ditch in a mountain at night, so when something falls into it – you cannot see it. That is waqaba.
So there are things in the night (including shayateen/devils) which you cannot see.
A’oodhu / ‘iyyaadh – seeking protection from things you cannot see.
When there are things lurking in the night which you cannot see.
But Ghaasiq usually refers to the moon. And the moon – according to studies – affects the tides of the oceans.
`A’ishah said, “The Messenger of Allah took me by my hand and showed me the moon when it rose, and he said,
«ØªَعَÙˆَّØ°ِÙŠ بِاللهِ Ù…ِÙ†ْ Ø´َرِّ Ù‡َØ°َا الْغَاسِÙ‚ِ Ø¥ِØ°َا ÙˆَÙ‚َبَ»
(Seek refuge with Allah from the evil of this Ghasiq when it becomes dark.)”
At-Tirmidhi and An-Nasa’i both recorded this Hadith in their Books of Tafsir in their Sunans
The human body also has affects by the magnetic forces of the moon, and people tend to become more violent.
The whole genre of mythical wear wolves is a an exaggeration of how people become much more violent within the night time, and aggravated during certain cycles of the moon.
This is what the word Lunatic/crazy comes from – the word LunaR (moon).
Because people recognized that the moon affected peoples behaviour during the night.
Allah teaches us about things we are not fully aware of.
Guys/boys/men who hang out late at night alot, they need to quit doing so. They cannot be reciting this and contradicting the teachings of Allah’s Messenger.
Khartoum, (Sudanow)- Interview with Professor Abdul Aziz Malik, Lecturer at the University of Oxford, London, Scientific Affairs Secretary, Sudan Scholars Organization, on why youth rebel and the reasons behind the youth nature. He cites scientific, social and psychological reasons, and gives explanation and insight into the mysterious age in human life.
Views of professor Abdul Aziz Malik in a interview about young generation
SUDANOW: Would you please explain to us when and why the youths rebel?
Prof. Malik: They rebel when they are disappointed with the elders for not getting from them what they want and for not obtaining the assistance to achieve their goals as the elders deny them all means, taking control of everything. Nobody is immortal and everyone should leave behind a legacy of ethics and experience for others to pursue. The senior generation should keep good company with the younger generation.
Q: How can the youth relationship with the scholars be straightened up?
A: This relationship can be straightened up by tolerance and persuasion on the part of the scholars towards the youths in tactfulness and mildness, without trespassing God’s teachings, and through contacts with the family in a way that makes the youths appreciate the importance of the parents as well as the scholars. The youths appreciate the importance of the elders only if the find in their personalities what they miss in their lives. The youths do not accept such demeaning terms as “stray generation” unintentionally pronounced by the elders who are partially responsible for this stray status.
The Islamic tenet is full of commandments and Koran verses that call protection of the youngsters against going stray and deviation from the right path and instruct the elders and religious scholars to guide the youngsters to pursue good behavior. Any misbehavior comes as a result of failure by the elders to instruct their juniors as part of a strategic planning.
Q; How do you view the youth-family relationship.. is it behind this problem?
A: The families have to reconsider the methods of upbringing the youngsters as methods of upbringing vary according to time and place, though the value remains unchanged. This one point; another one is the importance of companionship with the children of both sexes and conducting with them frank dialogue that leads to good manners.
Q: How can the satellite channels and other modern media be harnessed for benefit of the youths>
A: A family dialogue is required to be conducted with the youths so that they can correctly decide whether to use those channels and advanced media or they can be allowed to learn from the mistakes they experience attempts of their own until they achieve success. These two methods are important in the process of upbringing the youngsters. Tolerance should be observed in their treatment and they should be per5mitted to have some entertainment without breaching God’s teachings and without wasting time in evil behavior and be allowed a chance to exchange productive experience in a way that families interact with the youths.
There should also be an interaction between the families to benefit from each other, especially in cases of the families with a poor educational background who can benefit from the well-experienced and educated families. This is one of the elements of Islamic cooperation as a Koranic verse orders Muslims to “cooperate in benevolence and devoutness” in the form of individual and mass cooperation.
Q: The media message is double-edged weapon, how can the youths benefit from the positive edge?
A: The safe edge is found in the minds of the wise people; but even the incorrect message can teach our children how to avoid danger. This is evident in the case of a person who travels to Europe and becomes more adherent to prayers and other Islamic teachings than when he was at home in a Muslim community. This requires strengthening the faith and linking it to the personal safety; so if you rely on God and heed nothing you will be safer than others. The individual should make us of the positive part of the media message and avoid the negative one by all means.
Q: How can the youths achieve their goals?
A: They must be under a jurisprudent who is productive, nice of an agreeable style of speech, always offering new ideas presented in an acceptable and comprehensive language and in this way the youths will be closely associated with him.
Q: What will the youths do if they do not find a good example?
A: You have a good example in the character of Alla’s Prophet (Mohammad), This is the meaning of a Koranic verse which stresses that the example is a necessity because life becomes perfect only in the presence of an example and a challenge that confronts a person can be overcome only with existence of a good example. If the youths miss an example, they look for its amongst themselves, that is, a youth takes a characteristic from a companion or a friend as an example, another characteristic from another friend and so on. In this way of exchanging good characteristics, the youth can compose a good example to help them in leading their lives.
A reform of the youths depends on their direction by the elders and, as everyone exerts efforts and everyone is liable to be right or erroneous, a zero degree of error in the process of direction must be reached so that the guidance by the elders can be uniformed in a way that the youths will not feel they are on cross-roads.
Q: How can the youths resist the concepts and temptations of the change while upholding their legacy?
A: The concepts of change are not all evil, some them are even virtuous; it depends on the reality of the youths, if they are in a safe situation there is no need for a change or development, although development is a kind of change but for the better without rubbing out the past. The youths have to accept the change and development for their benefit.
Q: How can we have a responsible, ambitious generation?
A: What does the responsible generation term mean? Who defines the responsibility> What is its gist? If it is defined by the previous generation based on its old viewpoint, then it is responsibility; it is merely a wish by the previous generation to be copied. The youths may follow the steps of the predecessors but they should be open to the renewal and development.
The youths can, through the scientific movement, reach their highest ambitions provided that there are wise people who can put them at the starting point to help them utilize their inherent energy properly, instead of wasting that energy by enjoying long hours of evening entertainment or soiree. Such a youth is not brought to discussion by members of his family who only prepare delicious food for him to renew his energy which he does know how to spend or how to save for the future. The care and example-setting in the process of the youth development help in instilling the productive ideas advocated by the outgoing generation and, in this connection, full cooperation in the spheres of benevolence and devoutness with the new generation should be realized.
How can the youths help achieve the ambitions of the nation and uphold its heritage?
A: By means of good companionship with the family and scholars in addition to training the youth on shouldering the responsibility gradually, if they mistake they are corrected and if their ability gets weakened, they are assisted until they get stronger and until each youth be able to move forward with a banner till the end of the road. It is a question of cooperation between generation, rather than a struggle, but we have to realize that a disguised struggle is a kind of cooperation, provided that rational dialogue prevails between the two generations, but if the old generation gets stubborn and the new generation gets mutinous, chaos will prevail. So cooperation between them is a must and the good example is a necessity and is inspiring while the good companionship is important for the youths for future planning.
Q: Do you think the current Islamic education curricula are in agreement with the Sharia requisites and with the goals of the Islamic civilization?
A: The Islamic curricula constitute an integral body, one Koranic verse says the Holy Book has neglected nothing; negligence is in the minds of the scholars, not in the book. It is therefore inevitable to comply and cope with the reality and to adopt modern methods that persuade the youth into accepting the curricula and enable them to manage their own affairs without disdaining the company of the scholars, elders and the curricula they present.
Q: Do you regard the Islamic institutions of different specialties as opponents or supporters of the youths?
A: The Islamic institutions try hard in playing their rolesand they may be right or wrong; this is not strange, but the question lies with the officials in charge. An official responsible for an Islamic institution must accept self-training and must inquire about what he doesn’t know so that he will be capable of coping and setting a good example for the youths to follow; otherwise, the Islamic institutions will be of no value and will even be a disgrace to Islam and Muslims.
We pray to the Most Kind and Most Knowing to bestow upon us the ability to help correct the educational system and reform the state of affair.
By Zehr E Hilahil